Back in college, I took part in something called the “Emerging Leader Project.” It mostly meant that we went on a cool weekend retreat to the mountains. The trip was memorable because I learned how to play “mafia,” and because I met a girl whom I would later date for a few months. I’m not sure whether or not it helped me emerge as a leader, though I did use the game of “mafia” to successfully get through some rainy afternoons as a tennis counselor.
Yesterday, I read a fascinating article on the concept of “emerging adulthood.” Basically, there is some academic traction for reconfiguring the 20’s as a unique developmental stage, similar to what happened with “adolescence” in the 1900’s. The article cites some compelling evidence – people marrying later, switching jobs and cities constantly before settling into a career, and depending financially and emotionally on their parents into their mid and late 20’s.
The article caught me at a particularly relevant life moment. I’m 26. I mostly feel like an adult, but other times the “emerging” modifier seems appropriate. I’ve just moved to my third city in four years. I live with my girlfriend but we’re not married. I don’t ask my parents for money, but I certainly ask them for advice when faced with a major decision. I’ve amassed four years of teaching experience, two with Teach for America in Los Angeles and two at a beautiful private school in Ecuador. Yet I’m not sure whether or not to stay with teaching or pursue other goals. Graduate School? Maybe. More seriously pursue writing? Maybe. Commit fully to teaching? Maybe. All these maybes add up to everything and nothing. I don’t want to close doors, nor can I take an authoritative step towards any of the ones open before me.
The 20-Somethings quoted in the article express the same ambivalence. Enthused by all the options, yet also wanting fewer choices just to simplify growing up. It’s not unlike the chaotic debate after that first killing in “mafia.” Lots of noise and ideas, many compelling but thin arguments. So much possibility, such little resolution.
Former teacher Sly Stallone found a great new career
